Treat yourself well
Take a look at the language you use when you think about or talk to yourself and compare it to the way you talk to everyone else. If there’s a disconnect, try to treat yourself in a kinder, gentler way.
“We’re often kind to everybody else but we beat ourselves up. That’s a double standard,” says Blackburn. “It would be preferable to use a single standard: Don’t beat everyone else up, but get off your own back, too.”